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Let’s talk about sex


A 45 year old man develops a neurological condition rendering him multiple physical health difficulties and depression. He has been married for five years. At an initial assessment from a health professional, he is asked about the impact these changes are having on his relationship with his wife, and whether he is interested in and still able to have a sexual relationship with her. When problems are detected, an open discussion takes place regarding what help he might benefit from, and whether it would be useful for him and his wife to receive help as a couple.

So why don’t we ask older people later in life about their sexual lives and sexual relationships? Why don’t we ask when we know that changes in physical and mental health often impact on sexual functioning? What are we afraid of?

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Psychological therapies for older people – why ageism is old hat


As a Consultant Clinical Psychologist who’s worked with older people in the NHS for many years, I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve heard the following questions at a first appointment: Was I sure I could see them for psychological therapy as there must be people younger who really needed help instead? Was I sure there were enough resources within the NHS for them to be helped? Did I really believe change was possible at their age?

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